Soulmates. Or not.

I'm just going to go ahead and jump right into this "rant". I'm absolutely positive that I am in the minority when I say this, but I don't believe in SOULMATES. 

In fact, I think it's kind of silly to believe out of 7 billion people that are on this earth, there is only ONE out there for you. Seriously... SEVEN. BILLION.  And you're only compatible with one? Psh. I'm just gonna throw in the bullshit flag right now. Everyone has at LEAST a dozen other options out there. This may seem unromantic or even pessimistic, but this outlook has made my relationship so much more meaningful, and really a lot easier. 

I had this conversation with Travis probably a few years ago and since then we have been better than ever. I don't think we were brought together by some magical force or that it was "fate" that we are together and we haven't stayed together because we think we are "soulmates" and we HAVE TO WORK IT OUT BECAUSE IT IS OUR DESTINY TO BE TOGETHER AND THERE IS NO ONE ELSE IN THE WORLD THAT WILL EVER BE AS COMPATIBLE WITH EITHER OF US AS WE ARE WITH EACH OTHER RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW! We have been through Hell and back together, and we stay together because we love each other and we are happy. We agreed that we would never feel pressured to stay together if we weren't.

We stay together because we genuinely want to be, and that's it. We have had our fare share of ups and downs, but there is no force responsible for keeping us together other than our own free will. We choose each other, over and over again everyday. As time goes, people continue to grow and change. Sometimes people grow apart and that is ok. That is life. Relationships are hard work but it shouldn't be blood, sweat and tears everyday. 

So this is my message to you, be with someone because you want to be and as long as you both want to be. I don't care if you've known each other since kindergarten, were high school sweethearts or you're on your 4th marriage... no matter how great your love story is, don't try to fix something that can't be fixed. Don't get to the point you end up hating each other because you believe that is the person you are "supposed" to be with and it's not ok to give up on your "soulmate".


And remember, there are 7 billion other fish in the sea.



[don't be trippin' over a guppy.]